I’m writing in from Belgium and it’s an incredibly hot day. I overheard these Europeans at the beach talking about how hot the summer was, and that they wish winter would just return because it’s just too much.
In a country like Belgium where they have 9 months of bad weather, I thought to myself how could they complain about the one or two weeks that are incredibly hot? If you focus on the unbearable heat you forget to see the blessing of this amazing heat. You can be out at the beach and swim because the sea is warmer. People are so worried about the heat and fixated on sweating that they forget to enjoy what the heat brings.
The quality of your communication is the quality of your life experience. For example, let’s say your partner breaks up with you. There are different ways you can communicate that with yourself. You can say, “I’ve just lost the best person in my life. I’m never going to find someone that funny or smart, etc.”
That’s going to create an incredible amount of anxiousness from that experience. On the other hand if you say, “I wasn’t meant to be with that person for the rest of my life” it means you’ve given yourself the time and space to make it work with the right person.
There are different ways to communicate what happens to you and that determines the quality of your experience.
The way you communicate what happens to you changes your experience. I experienced the value of this when I got retrenched 3-4 years ago. The first thought I communicated to myself is that I’m worthless and not good enough. That created so much doubt, frustration and depression in me for 2-3 months that I couldn’t even apply for another job. Now that I travel the world while doing what I love I realise that was the best experience that could have happened to me. Life had to move on me so that I could explore my potential.
Go out there and communicate better with yourself.
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