When I wrote this, my sister and I were about to fly roughly 20 hours to Thailand with her two babies. She keeps worrying about what other people are going to think once these babies start crying.
I can understand why she feels that way but that’s probably the thing holding most people back from taking a chance on themselves.
What about you? When last did criticism stop you from doing what you wanted to do? When they said “you can’t do that” or “you’re not good enough.”
I really believe that if we could stop letting other people’s opinions affect our own we would be unstoppable.
When we’re expecting other people to approve of us and we use their opinions to define our own worth we become victims.
We start to live the lives that other people around us find okay.
We start to live to the expectations of our peer group. Sometimes that’s a good thing. For example, in the military the marines have the highest quality of living during their time there. As soon as they leave they start to binge on food, TV and go on a downward spiral. The reason being when they’re in the marines they’re surrounded by people who have an incredibly high standard, which is great.
If you’re surrounded by strong, motivated people they are going to keep you honest with your dreams.
If we let negative, random people affect our lives we’re going to be victims.
There’s a great quote that says, “If you don’t want to be criticized then do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.”
If you want to please everybody, be below average because nobody will be threatened by you. If you want to change the game then you’re going to have to step on some toes.
That said, focus on the right people’s opinion because they want what’s best for you.
I know it’s hard to take negative feedback but if you want an easy life do what is hard. If you want a hard life, do what is easy.
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