I just got back from an extended trip in Europe and what’s so nice about being in another culture is seeing their different fundamental ways of doing things.
It made me think about if the way we’re thinking and doing things here in South Africa is the right way.
I think there’s a sense of entitlement that we have here in South Africa – I don’t know if you’ve felt that? There’s a sense that everything around me must change – the government, companies and the people in my life must change in order for my life to change.
I realised this in Germany while having a conversation about politics. I was complaining about the government, how corrupt they are and how many problems we had.
He looked at me and said, “Laurens do all South Africans complain like this?”
The gentleman said as soon as they feel something’s broken and needs to be changed they take personal responsibility to fix it.
When things go right we gladly say ‘it’s my effort’. So it’s fair to say if they go wrong it’s also your fault. When things go wrong, take responsibility and accountability.
In psychology, there’s something called the lotus of control. The lotus of control is internal and that means you believe everything in your life is because of you. These are people with a high self-confidence, self-esteem and are driven. When your lotus is based on external events you have no confidence.
My life was not always great but I took personal responsibility, acknowledged it was my fault and took accountability.
This week, move away from the sense of entitlement. If somebody does owe you something, don’t let it control your life because you have no control over that.
Don’t live in that pain.
Don’t expect to wake up and expect the government to suddenly be fair.
Don’t expect the job market to create a job perfectly suited to your needs.
Go out there, take responsibility, move yourself away from entitlement and create your own opportunities.
Keep on changing the game.
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