I’ve been spending time with some amazing people in the UK and one successful businessman I met taught me something very powerful. He said if you want to grow and make this world a better place you’ve got to do it with people.
You’ve got to surround yourself with people who challenge you, make you think differently and who are different from you.
There’s a principle in psychology that says if something irritates you about somebody else it’s because you don’t like that about yourself.
Suppose somebody irritates you because of their negativity. In some way, it triggers the negativity that you don’t like about yourself.
There’s one guy who irritates me because he comes off very aggressive and assertive. Everybody must listen to him. It irritates me because I prefer to not make it about me and I wish I could be a little more like that.
The point is, when something irritates you about someone it’s a reflection of what you feel irritates you about yourself.
Surrounding yourself with people who are different to you challenges your growth. When you get frustrated with them, remember it’s a mirror and ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” You can constantly grow just by surrounding yourself with people who are different from you.
Another successful businessman I met said, “Laurens if you keep trying to make everybody’s weaknesses a priority all you’re doing is making people average.” For example, say you have a friend who’s not so great at communication skills. He’s not so good at sales and while it’s great to help him improve his communication skills, all you do is push his below average sales skills to average. However if he is highly creative and imaginative, focusing his growth on that pushes him to become extraordinary because those are his naturally above average gifts.
This week, remember that all our relationships are social mirrors. Go and surround yourself with people who are different from you because it’s going to teach you self-awareness. Focus on their strengths and together you can change the game.
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